Updated: Sep 17, 2020
After a breakup it might be tempting to drown your sorrows in Rocky Road ice cream or spend your evenings Facebook-stalking your former sweetheart. Fortunately, there are alternatives for easing your loneliness that do less damage to your waistline and self-esteem.
The time you spend on your own can prepare you to move on. Try these ideas to speed up your recovery and ease your heartbreak.
There’s a big difference between being alone and being lonely. Still, social support and interactions are essential to your mental and physical health. Here’s how to stay connected when you find yourself uncoupled.
Talk about it.Your friends and family can give you the comfort and encouragement you need. Ask for what you want whether it is a hug while you cry or a sounding board as you figure out what to do next.
Check your phone contacts. Fill up any empty hours by reaching out to old friends and colleagues. Invite a former coworker out to lunch.
Volunteer your services.Participating in a charity softball game or fundraising drive is a great way to extend your network and shift your attention away from your ex. As a bonus, focusing on others will help you to feel happier and more satisfied.
Pursue people with common interests.Find new places to hang out. Join a Meetup group that shares your love of science fiction orFrench cooking; or go to that concert where you will be surrounded by others who want to rock out to your favorite artist/group.
Reach out.Challenge yourself to connect with others. Chat with the waitress at a coffee shop. Tell your neighbor that his lawn looks beautiful.
Change Your Thinking
It is great to have friends and family on your side, but you also need to look at your relationship with yourself. Adjusting your perceptions protects you from loneliness regardless of what is going on in your love life.
Accept your feelings.You will probably experience some uncomfortable emotions like anger or jealousy. Facing up to the truth enables you to learn and grow.
Write it out.If your feelings are intense and conflicted, it may help to keep a journal. Notice any obstacles that tend to keep you isolated. Maybe you feel embarrassed about being single or you are avoiding mutual friends because you donot want to run into your ex.
Look for inspiration.Heartbreak is a common condition. Listen to songs that remind you that you are strong and an overcomer. Pick out role models who have built a happier life after a relationship ended.
Stay active.Fight the blues by working out